Vanity as a male
As a male , at 18 turning 19 soon, and living in a background were I was told vanity is wrong. I have though one thing, Vanity if was something that we males don't have biologically some or the other time why we feel to look good? why do we do things for looks. Then I realized that actually vanity is not biological, it is just a learning. Now the question would be that would be not great or for attention, First most of the time not everything is for attention and second why dont we as human beings think more broadly for thing
How you learn something , and then flag it as you cannot do it
This is a thing you can practice on your own self, if you see something or an activity only done by one person or a group , your brain associated it to be of that group , your brain associates the actions, things to that group or person, then if you are not of that group and you start to do that your brain feels weird or kind of bad about it. But what if you see that thing done by all people or all group ? then ? Well it will be normal like studying or maybe eating , Now I know you would say these are pure life necessities , but if suppose some food products are labeled as only for one group like say , a product like specifically marketed for baby and toddlers, now as an adult you can eat it too , there is nothing impractical in it , But because it was marketed for children your brain associates, connects it to children, now connect it with social conditioning that makes you embarrassed when you actually eat that product. Now you would say the audience the product is aimed at is for audience that lack proper teeth set to eat, but you as an adult have teeth and proper set, But the most important thing Im making here is the learning and conditioning actually makes much of our decisions than merely our own will and heart to that thing, Same way it comes to vanity , if as a male you do vanity it has no practical permanent changes to anything you are but because of conditioning and judgement you are stopped to do that
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Going forward
Maybe going forward it is better to incorporate more aspects of being human rather than locking behaviors in specific boxes, As a human almost everybody feels keeping up with behaviors locked in to boxes is exhausting.
Same goes for vanity , doing it does not changes functionally anything in you .
Same goes for skin care, doing vanity, skin care is part of being human, being confident , Vanity has been part of male lifestyle for a long time too in past.
We live more better when we are what we want to be
