Happiness
Is having more accomplishments in life is the key to a person’s happiness?
People love to chase their dreams. In school, we want to get high grades. In college, we want to build a good CV to make ourself stand out in the labor market. At work, we want to climb the company ladder, higher and higher. We often assume that happiness comes from getting accomplishments we periodically redefine. But what if that is not actually the main ingredient of a person happiness?
There is a time in my life that i didn’t chase a thing at all, and soon it hit me. I quickly felt unfulfilled with my day. It felt like there was something missing and i didn’t clearly know what. Then, I began searching for happiness theory in internet and i found two ideas that i want to share in this article. The first one is the longest study of happiness and the second one is the rules of happiness.
In 1938, Harvard researchers began the 80+ long study about happiness. They followed hundreds of people and observed their life. The result is that the main source of person’s happiness and fulfillment is actually their relationships. When I first heard about this, i quickly noticed something. I am the type of person who constantly puts happiness at the back of my effort. I did not notice that my main source of happiness comes from relationships, and i feel grateful that a human’s main source of happiness is not some exclusive accomplishment that just a few people successfully reach, but rather, a simple and cheap thing : a relationship.
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Rule of Happiness :
1. We Are Responsible to Our Own Happiness.
Do not expect anyone to make / responsible to our own happiness
2. The World Is Just As Is
Everything happen in the world is neutral, but we are the one who asses whether something is positive or negative
3. Happy is Trainable Skill
We have to be proactive to make ourself happy
4. Happiness Comes From Ourself
Do not rely being happy by seeking treadmill-like external factor, for example an achievement and a social validation
5. Happiness is About Acceptance
Always seek good things in anything happened to us
