Happy Birthday Pegging Paradise!
Sixteen years ago I sat down and wrote my very first blog entry over at Pegging Paradise. At the time, my goal was to be a writer of erotica. That’s what inspired me, what made my juices flow and felt like my mission.
Since then, I wrote a fair amount of pegging erotica. But my mission evolved. While I still get inspired to write erotica occasionally, I discovered I am absolutely a teacher. A sharer and spreader of knowledge (a spreader of cheeks, too). I truly love teaching people about pegging, and correcting the myths and misconceptions. The challenge of opening their minds about another way to find pleasure, intimacy, and thrills continues to inspire me daily.
Certainly a deeper level sucked me in, and I have absolutely gone way down that rabbit hole. That would be the contentious and illogical overlap between masculinity and men who enjoy receptive anal play. Add to that the potential healing aspect of vulnerability in pegging for receivers, and I was hooked. Vulnerability is a quality traditionally forbidden to those who want to be considered masculine (to their detriment as well as all society). Being able to allow and fully express that vulnerability is healing for so many receivers. When partners hold a safe and non-judgmental space for that expression, that is truly a gift.
I’m not sure what I expected my life would be like 16 years after that first blog post. Having never been a person who planned a career, there was no grand vision. I suppose I just did what I loved, what I enjoyed. That has brought me much satisfaction in life, and much happiness. Not always a lot of money. But despite that, here I am, living a life I love in a big beautiful home with my family, surrounded by community and friends. I am blessed, fortunate and privileged.
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To you all: Thanks for your bravery in exploring pegging. Some of you are also inspired pegging disciples; spreading the word, spreading cheeks and helping to normalize pegging! I am sure that Pegging Paradise would not exist without you, your interest, your feedback, your stories, and your questions.
I offer my sincere thanks.
Find joy, be kind, and happy pegging!
To the Hilt,
Ruby
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