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Some of the Trauma You Carry Was Never Yours
Understanding the pattern behind generational trauma
When I was a young boy, my parents used to say: The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
That was their simple remark whenever I told them stories about my friends.
Back then I had no idea what that really meant. I thought it had to do with how my friends looked; that they were often just younger versions of their parents.
Later I understood that in some families its members behave kinda similarly. So just from looking at that, you had an idea of which tree they belonged to.
But the story goes much further, at least for me. I started to understand that some of the trauma I carried was not even mine. It was put in my cradle, without my consent.
And that’s what makes generational trauma so hard to break. Because it was there before you had an idea of who you were. The people you trust the most and who are closest to you carry it too without even knowing. It’s like an invisible ghost that haunts the family system.
Ooof, you might say. That sounds like something heavy…
Well in a way it is… But understanding generational trauma can help you quite a lot for your own healing journey. And trust me, there are no…
