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Do you have sensation literacy?
If you’re not enjoying sex, it may not be because of anything you and your partner are doing. It may boil down to not exploring how you actually like to be touched.
“If you don’t know what sensations turn you on, your body doesn’t either,” explained sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti in a YouTube video. “Most people jump straight into sexual touch without knowing how their body actually responds to sensation, so arousal feels unpredictable or fragile or like it disappears the moment you pay attention to it.”
To improve this, Benedetti suggests experimenting with different types of sensations on different parts of the body.
“That means learning the difference between warmth, pressure, stretch, scratching, light teasing touch, steady contact, and release because different bodies respond to different sensations.”
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