Women — What is the Disconnect Between Masculinity and Pegging?

Masculinity and Pegging have a complicated relationship

(Note: Using mostly the gender binary here, as much of this arises from gender stereotypes.)

When Masculinity and Pegging Don’t Meet

Over the many years I have been teaching about pegging, I’ve received a fair number of emails from men who describe themselves with some variation of heterosexual, blue collar, muscular, hairy, very masculine-appearing, etc. They enjoy anal-receptive pleasure or want to explore it. Unfortunately they say that they tend to appeal to women who freak out when they mention their interest in ass play.

The men complain about attracting all the ‘wrong types’ of women due to their ‘masculine’ (by society’s standards) appearance/interests. The women attracted to them are frequently submissive-leaning. These women envision these big, strong, dominant men taking control and ravishing them. But they freak out about men wanting ass play.

What About Pegging is not Masculine?

First, of course there’s nothing wrong with your desire to be ravished! We all get to like/do/give/receive what we want. The problem arises when he desires anal play and all of a sudden you don’t see him as masculine anymore. Anal-receptive pleasure for him doesn’t fit with your vision of…